Have You Ever Thought, “Who Even Am I Anymore?”
If you’ve been pouring into everyone—your kids, your partner, your job—and feel like you’ve disappeared in the process… you’re not alone.
This isn’t just a mom thing—it’s an identity crisis that so many of us face in silence.
You look around one day and realize you’ve become the glue holding everyone together, but somewhere along the way… you let go of you.
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It’s a quiet kind of burnout that doesn’t always look dramatic on the outside. You still show up. You still get things done. But on the inside? You feel like a stranger to your own life.
So, how do you find your way back? Let’s talk about it.
Why Moms Lose Themselves
Motherhood has a way of putting everyone else first. You stop doing the things you love. You stop checking in with yourself. You trade in your dreams for survival mode and call it “doing what needs to be done.”
And while selflessness sounds noble, it becomes a trap when it disconnects you from your identity.
If guilt is keeping you stuck in that cycle, I go even deeper on this in Overcoming Mom Guilt: Pursue Your Dreams Without Regret. It’s time to let go of the lie that you can’t want more for yourself.
For another perspective, this piece from Psychology Today called How Mothers Lose—and Regain—Their Sense of Self adds deeper insight into the emotional toll and recovery process so many women experience.
6 Ways to Start Reclaiming Your Identity
Here’s what I walk my clients through when they come to me feeling invisible, overwhelmed, and off-track:
1. Reconnect with Who You Were Before the Titles
What lit you up before kids, marriage, and career responsibilities? Revisit those parts of yourself—they’re not gone, they’re just quiet.
2. Use Emotional Intelligence to Navigate Your Relationships
You’ve grown. But not everyone around you has. Learning how to hold space, set boundaries, and communicate without guilt is key. If that resonates, check out Unleash Your Emotional Intelligence and Transform Your Family Dynamics. I walk through how to create more emotionally connected relationships without losing your peace.
3. Define What Purpose Looks Like Now
You're not starting over. You’re starting aligned. Reevaluate your values and build a life that reflects who you are today.
4. Break Up with Guilt and Good Girl Conditioning
You’re allowed to want more. You’re allowed to rest. And no, it doesn’t make you a bad mom or partner—it makes you whole.
5. Create Real Connection with Your Teen
You don’t need to control them. You just need to emotionally connect. Start with empathy, not correction. That’s how you build trust.
6. Redefine Success on Your Terms
Ambition is still welcome—but now it has to work with your well-being, not against it. Soul-aligned success is your new standard.
You Didn’t Lose Yourself—You Adapted to Survive
But now, it’s time to reclaim you.
Start by choosing one part of yourself to reconnect with this week. Your voice. Your creativity. Your joy. One small step toward alignment can shift everything.
Ready for Support?
If you’re ready to rediscover who you are and build a life that reflects your deepest values, I invite you to explore my Life Purpose Makeover program.
Let’s map out a version of life that puts you back at the center—confident, fulfilled, and fully aligned.