Three Tips To Build Your Intrapersonal Skills
Most of us participate in intrapersonal communication but are unaware of our intrapersonal skills.
Today I’m sharing three ways you can build your intrapersonal skills so you become better at handling challenges, managing your emotions, and focusing on your goals.
What Are Intrapersonal Skills
Just like intrapersonal communication is communication with self intrapersonal skills are the internal abilities and behaviors that help you manage emotions, deal with your challenges, and learn new information.
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The skills relating to emotional intelligence include:
Self-confidence
Resilience
Persistence
Openness to new ideas
Time Management
The ability to overcome distractions
These skills are important because people with strong self-regulation have an easier time doing these things:
Managing behavior and emotions
Handling challenges
Working towards goals despite distractions
Intrapersonal skills may have less of an immediate impact on your interactions with others.
Reroute Your Natural Talents
Even though we like to believe we are. We are not naturally good at everything and this is okay.
Chances are you have strengths you may or may not recognize.
A lot of the time we use our strengths for the good of others instead of using them for the good of ourselves.
So it may seem like we don’t have those strengths but we just find it easier to help other people as opposed to helping ourselves.
To reroute these natural talents to ourselves, think of how you would help a friend and use the same advice for yourself.
Here is an example: a friend comes to you to help problem-solve some of their relationship problems.
You help them and things work out for them but your relationships are in shambles.
Take that same energy you have given them and implement those steps and actions in your life and remain consistent.
A part of the process of learning and developing our skills is learning to give to ourselves before we can give to others.
Developing our intrapersonal skills allows us to become better with our interpersonal skills.
Include Self-Reflection Into Your Routine
Self-reflection is a part of our growth process in all areas.
Most of us don’t make time for self-reflection because we are afraid of what we will find out about ourselves.
Self-reflection covers a lot of ground but it just involves thinking about your actions, choices, and the important things in your life.
Self-reflection allows you to take note of patterns and habits that work for you as well as the ones that don’t work.
I try to spend time daily self-reflecting. It doesn’t always work out the way I would like but I get it done.
During one of my self-reflection sessions, I realized I shut out people when they respond in ways that are triggers for me.
Is that the best way to handle the situation? Of course not but that was how I responded because I felt it was protecting me when it was harming me and those relationships.
Self-reflection helps you to see the role you play in situations and figure out ways to do things differently.
Self-relfection can be done in your mind or by writing in a journal.
My suggestion for using a journal is to allow yourself to write without censorship.
This is known as freewriting and may take practice.
I have yet to master freewriting because I have been programmed through schooling to always proofread and correct what I write.
However, you do your self-reflection make sure you are being honest with yourself.
Practice Mindfulness And Meditation
Meditation is not a skill you become great at overnight but is a skill that helps you learn self-awareness.
Meditation has helped me accept my thoughts and relax more. It has also improved my sleep and we all night a good night’s rest helps us navigate our days much better.
When we feel better and strong mentally and physically we are better equipped to get through tough situations as they arise.
I have personally found that practicing meditation has helped me with my focus and concentration.
Think about it you learn to focus on the thoughts as they pop up one at a time during meditation.
If you are anything like me, you are used to running around with 1000 thoughts all popping up in your mind at the same time and you try to give them all attention.
Trying to give all these thoughts your attention make it harder to focus and give the things that require immediate attention any focus.
Of course there are other ways to build your intrapersonal but these are the three that I have used and I found work best.
As with everything, you have to figure out what will work for you. Building your intrapersonal skills will help in the long run with not only your intrapersonal communication but your interpersonal communication.