Women have made great strides over the years. They have roles in leadership for top organizations, and they have taken leadership in politics among other things.
While these achievements are commendable, one thing remains the same: women remain the primary caregiver to children and elderly family members.
Women are wives, mothers, and they manage the household and finances.
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While taking on the responsibility for these roles, one role remains unfulfilled, and that is the role of caring for self.
No, I do not know why women we teach sacrifice themselves for the sake of everyone else.
It is possible to be a nurturer/caregiver, and take care of others without losing yourself.
I am also aware that everyone is not me, but when you have encountered multiple women who share the same story without knowing it, you realize this goes far beyond you.
Taking care of yourself is vital for everyone, not just women.
If we are not in the best space mentally and physically, how can we be expected to fulfill any of these other roles?
Taking care of yourself goes beyond just the physical and mental aspects.
We must be clear on who they are and what they desire out of life. No one wants to get lost or caught up in what is happening around them and start to take on the beliefs and thoughts of others.
How many of you have encountered family members or friends at turning points in their lives because they have sacrificed themselves for their jobs, husbands, and children they are lost?
Situations like this are more common than you think and even more common that these feelings are nerve expressed.
I was this woman. I cared for my kids and everyone who asked for my assistance or help. I also put my desires on the back burner for so long that I almost forgot about them.
I was one of the lucky ones to have a consent nagging in the back of my mind reminding me I was capable of more and doing more.
Here are a few suggestions on how you can begin to put yourself first while providing for others:
Take time to spend alone. I know it seems like a no-brainer but be intentional about carving out time for yourself. This time is when you are alone enjoying coffee or tea. You can use this time to write whatever your heart desires. You can use the time for exercise or meditation. Whatever you want to use this time for that is your choice.
Keep your dreams and passions alive. I know it's easier said than done, but in the same way, we encourage others, we need to support ourselves.
Find a support system and use them when you are overwhelmed and need to take time for yourself.
I can’t tell you that things will change overnight but making the decision today to put yourself before others is a decision that will help you support more people in the future.